So while I’m sitting in bed sick today (allergies of course) I thought it was the perfect time for some blogging, since the past 24 hours I’ve been in a opinionated sharing mood via my social media.
I’ve talked many times over the course of my blogging lifespan in Chicago about how different it is living in here in terms of locations, weather, and people. I’m more than tested it feels on all fronts regarding more than anything my beliefs/views/ opinions whether that be religion, politics, or anything else.
This is hard for me. Why you may ask? Not cause I’m not outspoken or scared to share my opinion but because I never have had to debate, discuss, and defend my morals or beliefs as much as I have here in Chicago
Now this does not mean that we are all robotic, god wielding, conservatives, loving our meat/guns, and all things cowboys in Texas. Sorry to tell you that, but as you know, Austin, Texas is living proof that we clearly all don’t come from the same stick of dynamite in Texas,
But what this does mean is that I like many of who you spent your time in one particular city/place for your upbringing are used to being surrounded by people with similar values/interests/morals/beliefs. Does that mean that everyone in my life shares my exact ideals on everything? No. That means that more often than not we are at least on the same page about things and I’ve rarely had to defend or debate otherwise with them.
So coming to Chicago and thrust into an environment with people constantly challenging things I have grown up with has been intimidating. Why? Why for outspoken Desiree would this be scary, because I’m in a big city by myself and making friends is important to me. And making friends with whom you don’t share the same morals/beliefs with can be hard in regards to the lifestyle I’m trying to lead as I’m shaping the person I want to be.
Is it important to have people with 360 different views as you? Yes, I’m not stupid I know that it’s refreshing and engaging for my perspective and learning to respect even if I don’t understand other people’s values and beliefs. RESPECT being the operative word because you can not like/understand something like:religion and still be respectful of people who care to engage in it.
And I think that’s one element from people I surround myself with here in Chicago that lacks is at minimum a respect for whatever each of us chooses to believe or not believe. It’s a dialogue that I know needs to happen, and I’m making it a priority to have it.
But I will say while I’m continuing to engage in dialogues I’m finding my voice on certain topics and I’m happy to voice them. If you need an example just read my long blurb I had on American Sniper because there has been little to any favorable response on that movie here in Chicago from my peers. I’m a big movie enthusiast as you know, so if someone doesn’t like a movie I love knowing why and how they feel as they do. But the political beliefs people had about the film (some who haven’t even seen it mind you) absolutely floored me as to why they couldn’t find any redeeming quality in the movie. Now I won’t make this a crusade for the movie cause this post isn’t for that.
It’s merely to say that once upon a time ago I wasn’t too sure where I stood on certain subjects or how to voice how I felt appropriately. And I’m happy to say as I’m growing and evolving Chicago if anything has helped me to find my strong voice regarding MY beliefs/morals. And I won’t apologize for that. And if I lose friends for it, so be it. If I respect you then you should respect me and hopefully we can shake hands and continue on from there. I’ve never been one to engage in sparring sessions and heated arguments cause at the end of the day once hostility gets put into the conversation both parties are tuned out to no voice but their own.